Discovering My Kink as a Stay-At-Home Parent

I've been a stay-at-home parent for the past five years. I took care of my kids while my partner went to work and built our life from home. But recently, something changed. It wasn't an overnight realization; it was more like a slow buildup of feelings and thoughts that eventually became too big to ignore. I've always been someone who follows the rules, never broke them, never questioned authority much. But lately, I find myself daydreaming about being told what to do, pushed around, even punished for things I shouldn't have done in the first place. It's not that I want my partner to hit me or hurt me in any way; it’s more like this fantasy of him disciplining me, maybe for coming home late without calling, or making a mess and then hiding it instead of cleaning up. It started with thoughts during chores, wondering what would happen if I didn't do them. Would he yell? Make me kneel? Clean the house as punishment? The more I thought about these scenarios, the more excited I felt. I never acted on those impulses though, my kids were around all day and it felt wrong to bring that kind of dynamic into our home. One night, while they were asleep, my partner came home late from work with a look in his eyes that made me nervous and curious at once. We ended up having an honest conversation about this unspoken tension between us. He admitted to having similar thoughts but was unsure if it would be okay for him to act on them. I told him the truth, that I had these feelings too, and suggested we explore some of our fantasies through roleplay. That night, after the kids were in bed, we tried out one scenario. It wasn’t extreme by any means, a little spanking and a lot of talking about how each action made us feel. But it was exhilarating. For once, I felt like I didn't have to control everything or be perfect all the time. I'm still figuring things out, but here’s what I want to know from you: Am I being too controlling if I enjoy when my partner disciplines me? Or is this just another side of us both coming together in a consensual way? What would you do if your partner confessed something like this to you?