Discovering My Kink in Singlehood

After my recent divorce, I found myself exploring the dating scene anew. In an attempt to understand what had drawn me to past relationships, I decided to engage with a BDSM community online. There, amidst various interests and dynamics, I stumbled upon DDLG. The concept intrigued me: the idea of being in charge, guiding someone through moments of vulnerability and confusion, much like how I've navigated life's challenges for myself and my children as a mother. Recently, I entered into an arrangement with a young adult who enjoys playful scenarios that resemble coming-of-age milestones but framed within an explicitly consensual framework. We set boundaries early on to ensure comfort and safety; every session starts with explicit consent forms detailing what each party is comfortable with. The experience has been eye-opening, empathizing with someone's struggles while channeling a nurturing, protective energy feels incredibly fulfilling. However, I am left questioning whether this desire for control and support in play is a healthy reflection of my past or simply an enjoyable kink to explore within consensual boundaries. What do you all think? Is it typical for people who have been long-term caregivers to find themselves drawn to such dynamics?