baby needs guidance

ok so here's the thing - i've been into this mommy/kid thing for a while now. like really deep. my partner and i have been doing it for about 6 months or so, and its just gotten to this whole new level. we started off super innocent - like pillow talk and a bit of roleplay before bedtime - but then it got kinda intense in the bedroom. now she's down with me calling her baby and treating her like my little girl in all sorts of ways. it's honestly kinda amazing how much fun we've had, but i feel like maybe i'm taking it too far sometimes. yesterday, after a long day at work, i got home late and just wanted to have some fun without asking her for permission or anything - she was watching tv. so i walked in and said 'hey baby' and started getting a bit bossy with the things we do together like i normally do but maybe took it up a notch - i told her to come sit on my lap and act all cute and needy which isn't totally out of the ordinary, but she kinda looked at me weird. she didn't exactly push back but there was something different in her eyes that made me feel guilty later. now im not sure if this is just me being extra or if i need to tone it down a bit. am i the asshole here for not checking in with her? or is it normal for me to want more control and guidance as 'mommy'? also, does she owe me something because of how much fun we have together? im really confused. any thoughts?