caregiving fun

hey all so i started this caregivng thing a while back kinda like a d/s dynamic but we dont use those words its just me taking care of her and making sure she follows the rules wtf is up with how much i love spanking her when shes naughty it feels so good and turns me on so much. our friends are all into this too and support us but i feel weird asking them for advice cuz they think im just being a nice friend. any ideas what this means or if its normal? thanks :)