Why Does Roleplaying a Submissive Stay-at-Home Dad Turn Me On?
Anonymous Pouty Moth #804 · General Confessions
So I'm in my late thirties and a stay-at-home dad. My wife works long hours as an attorney, and while we both enjoy sex, it's always been fairly vanilla. Lately though, something has shifted inside me. I've found myself increasingly turned on by the idea of roleplaying as a submissive husband and even fantasizing about being treated like a child sometimes. It started innocently enough - my wife would come home late after a stressful day in court and I’d make sure everything was ready for her. But over time, these acts of care became more structured and ritualized. Now, it's almost as if I'm eager to be put through various tasks, like cleaning the house or cooking dinner, just to please her. She’s always appreciated my efforts, but now I find myself wanting to go further. One day, while we were discussing household responsibilities in a playful way, I joked that maybe she should be my boss and tell me what chores to do next. To my surprise, she seemed interested too. We explored this idea more deeply. Now when she gets home late, instead of just greeting her, I greet her formally as if we’re at work - bowing slightly with a respectful nod while saying, 'Welcome back, Mrs. Smith.' It's turned out to be incredibly arousing for both of us. She enjoys the role-reversal and appreciates me taking on this submissive role to help manage stress. But here’s where things get complicated: I sometimes crave discipline from her, even if it means being scolded or punished playfully in a way that feels demeaning but also sexually stimulating. For example, she might put me in time-out for forgetting the groceries and not getting the right snacks. It sounds bizarre when I write it out like this, but there’s something about feeling reprimanded by her - my authority figure - that turns me on. This dynamic has been exciting and fulfilling on one hand, but I also worry if these feelings are normal or healthy. Is it wrong to crave this kind of adult submission as a husband? Should I be concerned about how far we've gone in terms of role-play and boundaries? Or is it perfectly fine for us to continue exploring these kinks? I value our honesty with each other, so we've had several talks about it. She's open-minded and supportive, but we're both looking for guidance on navigating this territory safely. What do you think? Am I being unreasonable to want more from a playful dynamic like this? Is there anything unhealthy or dangerous here that I'm missing? We’re careful with consent and boundaries, but I still have these nagging doubts.