the big talk

so i met this guy like a year ago and we started playing around with some kink stuff. he's always been super into daddy domme kind of things but i kinda float between different roles depending on the day or mood. we had a great first few months, mostly just fooling around with little stuff online and phone calls. then one night over dinner at his place (i know it was early but still) he gets all serious and says we need to talk about boundaries and where this is going. i mean sure why not? so we start talking and he says things like how much he wants a lifelong commitment with me, which i kinda love bc its rare in my experience. but then the conversation shifts and it starts getting into some more rigid dynamics that dont really work for me - his preference for consistent roleplay even outside of sex, total submission from me in all areas of life etc. i feel like im falling hard for this guy but also want a relationship where we can explore and switch roles as needed instead of having to stick with one thing forever. it ends up being an amazing talk because we lay out exactly what each other wants and agree to keep working on it together, no matter how long it takes or if its possible. ive never been so clear about my own desires before. but now im kinda nervous about where things will go even though he seems totally into figuring this stuff out with me. overall feels good but scary as hell.