caregiving and beyond

i been with my husband for over a decade now we have kids and everything but i find myself caring for him in ways that arent just about everyday life you know like cooking and cleaning its deeper stuff emotional support mental health kind of things he needs it and i give it but sometimes i take it further than usual boundaries cross when im the one taking control guiding leading his hand not literally but mentally emotionally i dont wear diapers or anything but there is this sense that hes younger in my mind more vulnerable open to me i guide him through fears anxieties stuff he cant handle on his own its a roleplay kinda thing but its real too it feels so intimate yet detached like im both nurturing and being strict at the same time sometimes he likes it when i am firm demanding showing him what to do how to be stronger its not just about discipline its a whole mindset switch for us in that moment and then back to normal afterwards ive been wondering if this is something more than just caring for my husband you know like some kind of deeper power dynamic or kink im curious what others think about this