Divorced and Disciplined

So, I got divorced recently. You know how they say marriage is about compromise? Well, turns out my ex had a thing for DDLG, Discipline and Desire in Little and Caregiver roles, and when he wasn't into it anymore, the compromise train derailed pretty quickly. Anyway, now that I'm on my own, I’ve kinda picked up where we left off with him, but I’m calling the shots this time. One day, out of nowhere, a friend suggested I might enjoy playing the role of a caregiver for someone else... and here I am, finding myself drawn to disciplining others like I used to let him do to me. It's weird because it’s all consensual now, but there are still days when I just want to roll my eyes at how much time and effort goes into this game we play. So, anyone else out there find themselves navigating through a similar mix of control and care? What’s your take on the discipline part of DDLG dynamics?