figuring it out

i'm a military spouse and i've been exploring ddlg stuff lately. sometimes i feel like playing the little role which is really exciting but confusing too. when i switch to being more of a caregiver, it helps me understand my own needs better somehow. we dont go into super graphic details or anything, just enough to get the mood going. its helping me figure out what im all about in this dynamic and why it feels so right for me now.