The Weight of Caregiving Beyond Labels...

I'm in my 30s, trans woman, and I've been taking care of my partner for the last few years. He's older than me, and he trusts me completely... but sometimes it feels like more. Last week we were cleaning up after dinner when things got heated. It wasn't about gender roles or anything specific... just something about how he looked at me as I was putting away the dishes made my stomach flutter. Before I knew it, I was taking charge in a way that felt deeply intimate and controlling...It's hard to explain exactly what happened because there were no words for it.... Just raw emotions and physicality. Now I'm left wondering if this is okay...if he's okay with me being so dominant at times. I just need to get it out of my system.