the truth about me and my sub

hey everyone, i'm just feeling really raw right now. i've been daddy to a young woman for almost two years, ever since we met at the coffee shop where i work as a barista. she's always made me feel so special, and it was hard to resist when she started showing interest in me back then. we clicked on an emotional level, but it was also clear she looked up to me like more than just her coworker. i've taken care of her ever since, even helping her with some big decisions in life, finding a better job, working through relationship issues, you know? i've always been the one there for her. and as we grew closer, so did our dynamic shift into something more intense and private. but now, things are getting complicated again. she's feeling overwhelmed, like maybe she needs space from this whole arrangement. it's hard because she means everything to me, but i can't help but wonder if i'm the problem here. am i being too controlling? or is this just part of her process and growth? i feel so lost right now. i know we've talked a lot about boundaries and respect, but when push comes to shove, it feels like i might not be doing enough for her anymore. she's 18+, but sometimes it feels like i'm trying too hard to act as both her mentor AND her caregiver. i want to support her in all the ways that work for her, not just what i think is best. i really don't know where we go from here honestly. part of me wants to push back and hold onto this power structure because it's familiar and comforting. but another part recognizes that might be suffocating for both of us in the long run. so now, i'm just sitting with all these questions without clear answers.