Caught Off Guard

So I'm this military guy's Daddy, you know? Married to him, but it's not a typical marriage. We have our roles and rules, stuff like that. It was fine for a while, he loved the structure and all. But then we moved to a new base, everything changed. He started acting out in small ways, coming home late without calling, not doing chores... I let it slide at first, thinking maybe it's just stress or something. One night, I was really frustrated with him. We had this big argument and he left for a bit to cool off. When he came back, he was in this mood, you know? Like a kid who knows they're in trouble but doesn't care. He did things that made me so angry, breaking rules just to piss me off, like throwing his clothes around the room after I told him to put them away. It's hard when your partner does that and expects you to take it calmly. So I tried talking with him again. We went back and forth for a while. But he kept pushing my buttons, acting like he didn't care what I said or how upset I was getting. At one point, I felt so helpless, like he was just trying to get me to lose control completely. And then... things happened after that. It's hard to talk about because it all got very heated and intense in a way neither of us had planned for. We ended up spending the whole night figuring out where we stand now as Daddy and his boy. I don't know if I did the right thing, but sometimes you just can't control how things play out when emotions run high. It's like walking on thin ice, one wrong step and everything shifts.