The Unconventional Discipline I Enjoyed with My Child's Father

I married my high school sweetheart when we were both 18. We got into DDLG shortly after we started dating again when our kids were young, just for fun at first. As time went on, I became really good at it and he enjoyed how much he loved being submissive to me. He'd call me mommy and would act like a child whenever we were alone. It made him feel younger, more carefree, and it turned him on knowing someone was in control of him. The thing is, over the years our dynamic became so powerful that when I'm not acting as his caregiver, I can be strict and commanding with him in other areas of life too. For example, if he does something that upsets me or goes against what we agreed on as a couple, like being late coming home after work without letting me know, I'll use the same tone and language that I'd use while disciplining our children's father. One time, he was particularly bad about it. He got drunk with his buddies one night and stayed out later than expected, this happened to be on a weekend when I had been looking forward to spending some quality time together. So the next morning, as soon as he came in through the door and saw how upset I was, he immediately apologized and started acting like a kid again. I gave him a stern talking-to, just like if one of our children had done something wrong. He knew what it meant and he knelt down on the floor right away. That's when things escalated a bit because as we continued our discussion, I realized how badly he wanted to be punished for his mistake. So I gave him a light spanking with my hand, just enough to let him know that what he did wasn't acceptable. He cried and apologized profusely, it was really intense but also incredibly arousing. It made us both feel connected in a way that no other moment ever had. We've learned over the years how important these boundaries are for maintaining our bond. So, I just wanted to say this: if someone tells you DDLG is just about playing pretend, they're missing out on an intense emotional and physical connection with your partner. It's not always roses and candy, there can be hard consequences that keep us both accountable.